AN ANTIDOTE TO MODERN LIVING
In our pursuit of well-being and happiness, we often overlook one crucial element: self-compassion. This is a profoundly valuable practice. It can enhance our overall well-being and nurture a healthier relationship with ourselves.
Self-compassion goes beyond a little TLC. It involves treating ourselves with kindness, acknowledging our shared humanity. This is the practice of being gentle and understanding toward ourselves, especially during challenging moments.
I remember the first time I learnt to ride a bicycle. I was 10 years old. It was my older brother who held the saddle while I tried to pedal. At first, I was wobbly and fell off. “Don’t worry,” he said, “try again.” Instead of berating me, he was patient, and once I had got the hang of it, I was unstoppable. I loved my first bike. The same goes for our self-talk.
With kindness towards Self, we can recognise that imperfections and mistakes are part of our human experience, and we don’t need to beat ourselves up if we don’t quite ‘get it’ the first time. Even at my lowest moments I can turn within and remind myself that I am worthy and it’s ok to feel sad, angry or frustrated. When I do this then I can find a way to dust myself off, stand up and take just one step forward.
RESEARCH PROVES IT
Scientific studies have unravelled the remarkable benefits of practising self-care and kindness. By extending kindness to ourselves, we activate the release of oxytocin, a hormone associated with feelings of relaxation and well-being.
In one study conducted by Neff and colleagues (2007), participants who engaged in self-compassion intervention showed a significant reduction in negative emotions, such as anxiety and depression. They also reported higher levels of positive emotions and life satisfaction.
Another study examined the impact of failure and self-compassion. Researchers found that people who showed kindness to themselves were more likely to adopt adaptive coping strategies, such as seeking support and engaging in productive problem-solving when faced with setbacks.
When we show ourselves some love, our relationships with others improve, and we can extend compassion and empathy towards others.
DAILY LIFE HACKS
- Begin by becoming more aware of your self-talk and inner dialogue. Notice how you speak to yourself during challenging moments. Replace self-criticism with more caring, compassionate statements, offering yourself words of understanding.
- Accept yourself as you are, warts and all. Remember that no one is perfect, and it is these same imperfections that make us human.
- Take moments to pause, breathe and tune into your emotions.
- Replace self-critical thoughts with self-compassion.
- Use affirmations to enhance your worthiness. “I am worthy of love and compassion, just as I am.”
In conclusion, there is enough scientific evidence to show the immense benefits of reaching out a hand to yourself. My wish for you is that you blossom and grow on your inner journey of kindness.